With Thanksgiving comes a downhill spiral toward the end of the year. Many of us are recapping what we have learned about ourselves and the journeys we’ve traveled. Thanksgiving in particular reminds us to express gratitude and to give thanks, especially to God. Yet this feeling of “gratitude” seems to only be felt when looking back in time. We have to ask ourselves, “where was gratitude before this moment ?”
We have been taught to internalize gratitude and to keep it as a personal experience, but gratitude is not just how you perceive your life. It is also how others lead you to perceive your own life. The people around us share the responsibility of developing our self-worth. Hanging around the wrong people will give us the wrong impression of who we are.
Out of curiosity, do your friends give you opportunities to say, “thank you?”
The friends I surrounded myself around were successful in their own rights, pretty for the most part and driven always. But in my revolution of being a bad ass bitch, I’ve realized I am more than a hardworking, independent woman. I am gifted beyond measure and that is what my friends didn’t help me to see. The relationships I surrounded myself with did not allow me to see my full potential and I certainly never had opportunities to say thank you. Unfortunately, we chose friends and even lovers that see us as their equal, and at times less than. To them, we were equals.
This year I have been slapped with so many philosophical findings but this was the most remarkable discovery: “you think you can’t live without someone until you do.” Stop making excuses for people that shouldn’t be in your life to stay in your life. You deserve to be appreciated by those around you. To receive that affirmation and confirmation of your contribution to the world being great.
My mother was the one person that encouraged me and saw my appetite for success. To her, anything I wanted to do was possible and she did everything to make sure I could make it. Without her in my life, my desire for gratitude from others has grown and led me to people that fearlessly make me feel larger. I quickly learned small circles are comfort zones where success can not be built. I want to walk in my truth.
It’s important to have people in your circle that speak life into you. Those who embellish your attributes and remind you that who are and what you’re doing in that moment is great. And you? You get to say, “thank you!”.
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