I posted this status on Facebook: lovelymorning: I am up early thinking about Saturday’s filming and the crazy topics that came up about relationships. One of our guest is married, has a boyfriend who is married, and a girlfriend. I wasn’t at all ready to moderate such a topic. But I’ll have my blog post up by noon with an inside scoop.
Can anyone guess which girl it is? Guess you’ll have to like my page for more details.
I filmed a new project over the weekend called “Table Talk” with four of my fabulous girlfriends and things became interesting very fast. Among the four of us were two single girls and two girls in very committed relationship. While I thought I knew the bases of everyone’s relationship status, I can certainly say, I had no idea. I couldn’t go in-depth with many topics so I wanted to continue our conversation here with you about the Side-Chick
The frame work for dating quickly changes when there are celebrities consciously uncoupling, divorcing but co-habituating, exercising open relationships and giving hall passes. We can’t put fought in men because women have found their own way to have their cake and eat it too. Especially when considering that most women have been a side girl at one point or time and may have not even known it. In fact, two of us four girls share a similar story in Table Talk.
In my experience married men approach me quite often. But when a man is approaching me, my first instinct isn’t to think that he is in a committed relationship or even married. “Where is his wedding ring? And why is he approaching me?”,are questions I ask myself. I am not here to defend the side chick per se but one can unknowing become a side chick, so as women we have to defend each other.
There are so many reasons why a married man would approach a single lady outside of the new normal scenarios. He could be getting a divorce, separated or be the infamous man who married to early. In any case, a commitment made between two people is between them. Any third party person cannot be held accountable for stray away dogs (or cats) despite the circumstance.
There are those women who prey on married men. While it’s not appropriate, the married person is responsible for his/her actions. That’s part of being married and it’s not up to the rest of the world to make marriage easy for couples. In my opinion, side girls help women do way with the wrong guy much faster.
People are human first and sexual being second. It’s ok to stay single or leave the relationship if you can’t stay committed – It’s even respectable. Women who force it work are just wasting their time and settling. Even if you cheat in every relationship, the only that matters is with the person you plan to/or are married too. If you’re with the RIGHT person, then cheating isn’t something you do.
So the next time you run into the side chick, be polite and say thank you. She clearly did you a favor.
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