I have only been 25 years old for 45 days and already it feels like I’m receiving a crash course into woman hood. Weird things have taken place such as, I’ve been changing my mind on many commandments I swore by. The latest being: wanting a family, buying a house and getting married. And even more shocking, my ability to conceptualize ideas that once started with “never in a million years.”
Yes, never in a million years would I think it is ok for ex-lovers to be friends, especially when one partner has move on.
My initial thought process was there is no way I would want to befriend some who either broke my heart or gave me stubborn headaches. Even reading that still sounds pretty ludicrous but wait for it – this I when start feeling my grown and sexy maturity coming in. Just because two people cannot date each other, it does not mean you have to kick a perfectly good person with great chemistry out the window. And you sure as heck do not have to be their booty call (do people still say that anymore).
Oddly, we are all a little more patient and understand of our friends’ short comings than the people we date. So the “I hate when he/she does …” pretty much disappear and you sleep like a baby knowing it doesn’t faze you (look at me getting all antiqued with the 90s lingo).
Need a little more convincing?
It does not mean one or both people don’t have feelings for each other. Heck, I don’t like being labeled the “homie”. The next thing you’ll find is him letting the door slam in my face. In nutshell it means you both tried to spark a fire but those feelings couldn’t go any further. Otherwise, you’d be together. Right?
Just scroll on over YouTube and hit play on Mario “Just a Friends”. If you’re lazy like me than click here. The song pretty much says Mario is into a girl, but she tells him that he is just a friend. (I’m sure the song title gave that up pretty quickly.)
Anyways, having an ex as your friend allows the two of you to start a friendship off with trust, understanding and loyalty. All of the desired traits missing in your romantic relationship but predominate in your friendship. Look, life sucks and it be like that sometimes.
So what do you do now?
Call up your ex, make sure you look good, and don’t f*ck him.
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