This is to my single girls desperate for a “real” relationship and a “real fairly tale” but it’s just not coming anytime soon. 

Hey Ms. Anonymous,

I had every excuse to justify the reasons why I haven’t found a decent man like, “but you haven’t left DC yet.” An excuse I tell myself as if the man of dreams is waiting for me in Paris. And now that I am almost 25 years old, Ive reached the point where my 21 and legal party invites have swapped for weddings and baby showers. Naturally, that change made me sad because my mother always pressed the value of matrimony. While I’ve spent the first half of my 20s dreaming about love,  I am now dreaming about solitary. I’ve been single forever according to my Facebook status, but only recently have I truly enjoyed the single life.

As a young lady, I was taught the strategtic steps toward becoming a woman to the point where my mother enrolled me into Barbizon modeling and acting. Now I have always been too fat to be a model; however, my mother hoped I’d leave that place with some ounce of grace.  You know that in countries like Kenya, you can still buy your woman.

I hit a hard place in my mother’s passing. For the first time I felt on my own without my mother’s or a father’s crutch to hold on to. Later, so many guys came to my rescue like a damsel in distress but I was not interested.It’s like every weekend there is new guy vying for my attention and I proudly admit that I love it.

“What’s an amazing girl like me doing looking in her pass for comfort?”, I ask myself.

“What is a pretty girl like you doing single?” is what the guys are asking me but that is the last thing I am asking myself. I am single because I have options and my worth affords me that luxury. There is nothing cocky about my confidence or my roller decks of talents. I am taking my time and exploring life, people and culture in the meantime. That’s what I tell the masses.

I forgot to mention that I’ve been to Kenya and Paris this year and will travel to Kenya and Dubai next month. I am filming a conversational dinner party this weekend and planning a philanthropic event sponsored by own company, Charity Gachenge Productions next month. Oh and I have even bigger news on the way.

So let me be honest, a blessing caught at the wrong time can be a nightmare ladies. I am single because I am very busy making the world a better place. I am waiting for the right man who is going to help me accomplish my goals of being a successful entrepreneur, wife and mother. At the right time and in that order.

I am accomplishing more goals than many people my age with a baby. And I enjoy not having to answer to a husband. Quiet frankly, I have more time to enjoy all of that stuff I can learn with this new found solitary.

In a nutshell, I am just getting to know ME, SHE and HER.

So guess what girl, you’re not the only single one. So don’t be the only one not enjoying time with you.

Sincerely,

Ms. Satisfied Single (for now)

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