I am sure you have experienced opportunities and moments in your life that have been too good to be true. You couldn’t deny them because you would have been telling yourself you didn’t deserve better. And in the same breath, you could be setting yourself up for fools gold.

Fools gold is being part of something or following a journey toward destruction because you simply ignored the signs. Most of the time we ignore obvious signs because we want to make things work. I am talking about love but this applies to everything including relocating, work placement, and friendships. The crazy part is that we hardly learn our lesson ( at least I don’t).

I went through an interesting breakup that had my world crumbling. Hell all of my break ups led to weeks of tears but this one was painful. I was planning a future for us even if we couldn’t get through the current moment. Despite all of the signs, I blamed myself for the relationship failing.

The relationship went array because I trusted my heart but I didn’t verify my feelings were realistic. I just wanted to be in love and forget about all pain I was going through from the passing of my mother. That was the first sign—I made a man my drug of choice. Our love was real but I willingly went up against wicked, strong forces. I learned from that relationship that love is a business, and being in love is never enough.

I asks myself if I can appreciate anything from that break up. And well I’ve learnt that love is always worth fighting for and the possibility is always worth diving in for. What I hope to do differently is to love but verify. When you ask yourself “why…” you are holding yourself accountable for your feelings. Nothing is make-believe.

If he/she makes you happy, why does he/she make you happy? You’ll be surprised how few or many responses you will come up with. Once you understand why, you can focus on the how. After the how, you can focus on the now.

 “I took a tragic horrific experience and did not let it diminish me, rather grew and evolved and allowed the experience to teach me.”

Kim Kardashian comments about life after being robbed at gunpoint  saying: “I took a tragic horrific experience and did not let it diminish me, rather grew and evolved and allowed the experience to teach me.” I too will say the same; don’t be afraid to trust people just because you have been hurt. And don’t naively think there aren’t sick people out there. You, we, just have to be smarter with how we trust by verifying.

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