Snooping around on Facebook and landed on Barbara’s post with relationship questions ‎#barbsrandomthoughts.

Question:
How important are “titles” in the getting to know, courtship, dating, relationship phases?

Titles are the only thing that matter to me. I need to know who I am, what I am and where I am going. Titles allow us to have expectations and goals. They give us time to make the necessary improvements and commitments to move toward the end goal. Besides, each level comes with different demands and as a woman who will go through all of his stuff, I need that girlfriend authorization to be able to ask inspector gadget questions. With more women becoming ok with open relationships, and as the possible other woman, it’s nice to know if I will ever make it on his IG page. #relationshipgoals

But to be frank, the only concern I really have is how many partners each person has during a relationship with no phases. I mean, like where is the phase out plan? Safe sex and monogamy is extremely important and if you can’t discuss the “status” of our relationship, I am sure you haven’t discuss each other’s HIV status.

Are you comfortable going with the flow and allowing nature to define the state of the interaction? Or do you need to have a conversation about what exactly things are throughout the process?

I’m sure men lean toward going with the flow and women toward that conversation. Speaking from the woman that I am today, him and I need to have that conversation so I can assess the value of him and what effort I need to put in. I am a business woman with many jobs and if cooking for him is what I do in my free time, then I NEED to know his exact intentions. Because I can Netflix and chill while he is starving since he isn’t that invested in me anyways. Another questions is do I need to spend 10 minutes getting ready for him or an hour?

There are parts of us that we reserve for the right people and there should be a way to identity when he/she is doing something a little extra special. Too often we waste the better parts of us on the wrong people.

Can there be acknowledgement in actions without categorizing the interaction verbally?

Actions do speak louder than words but I will never get tired of hearing someone’s affirmation for me. I would say the two go hand and hand because most men stay clear of having to confess anything. I will show you that I love you but I can’t tell you ? –That’s whack, so are you going to just open the box and not asking me to marry you? When a person doesn’t complete their actions with words, they give the other person an opportunity to make the words up for themselves. Heck, I’d accept the ring and say what a great Christmas gift.

I do have a girl friend that isn’t into mushy gushy stuff, and her man better not be waiting around for her to be romantic. But such miscommunication is easily avoidable. Seriously, who in here has time to waste? Tell me and show me what you want and what you have to offer and accept the same in return.

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