Women these days are more successful and independent than ever but for whatever reason, they can’t find a man. I have several girlfriends, young and older, who are well rounded but still very single. I don’t mean single as in, “I’m enjoying the single life” but “where are all the men at?”
They considered different races, ages and even those that have English as a second language. In fact the massively long list of “must haves” have shrunken to a memorable list of three: financial stable, not a (real) criminal and kind of good looking. Since many of you are willing to try anything at this point, I wanted to share with you my tricks.
But you have to read this blog in its entirety.
And don’t be impatient and scroll down, that could be the very reason you’re single now. The first thing we have to do is filter out the ineligible men.
3 Ways to know he is not a good candidate.
1. Rude boys and bad boys are not real men, they are just real fun. If a guy catches your eye and looks perfect, stay away. How many times has that type of guy been a jerk? We are looking for that guy that lays low but doesn’t get lost in the crowd. Look for swagger that’s not cocky but confident.
2. If you’re out, he should have a drink in his hands. (Not everyone drinks but this is a good thing to notice). The kind of drink matters; if it’s on the rocks then you know he paid the premium price. We aren’t gold digger, but who likes cheap hangovers.
3. When you walk past, he should notice you. At least if you take my next suggestions then he will. You want him to break his neck but not speak to you. The man you’re looking for is patient.
So now we’re on to the juicy part.
Men are pretty simple creatures and that’s kind of the part we loath about them. But this time it works to our advantage. You have to understand that men are first visual and that’s how you speak to them. Not with words but actions and grace. Even after a few drinks, you still have to maintain grace.
Let’s look at 8 things you need to do.
1. Beat you face down but don’t look dead.
Either some women over do it, or don’t do it at all. But every lady could use a little enhancing. That’s the luxury of makeup and one thing we can use to our advantage. I personally love some good lashes and nice contoured cheek. Find a happy medium with your look and refine your makeup skills. Otherwise, it could be a disastrous first step.
2. Wear the right color.
The color of your outfit is more important than the fit and style. A good color makes your skin glow. If you don’t know what colors look good on your skin complexion, look up celebrities that share a similar complexion.
3. Wear heels and know how to walk in them
I understand that heels suck. No matter how expensive, they will have your feet hurting for days. But pain is literally beauty. Side note, ladies take care of your feet, you don’t want to be like Claudia Jordan making it part of your introduction: “#disclaimers, I have really bad feet.” Men love heels and long legs so don’t be afraid.
4. Smell good, smell expensive
Bath and body works does not count as perfume. Invest in a good collection of smell goods. Women truly over look this but men don’t. A man that smells good will have you sniffing him like freshly washed laundry. We want that same effect.
Alright so now you’re ready to go out
5. Be fancy and boogie but be bad at it
You have to display some level of classiness without appearing high maintenance. You might find yourself sitting with your legs crossed and they go numb because it’s not something you do often. But if you don’t think highly of yourself, why should he? When you have successfully reeled him in, you can get more relaxed and be yourself. Let’s call this the pretty woman effect.
6. Make the first move
I don’t know why grown women act like men still have cooties. The man you want is tired of chasing, he wants to get to the point and see what he is working with. And well you are too; no one has time to waste. As long as you did what I told you beforehand, then there is no such thing as rejection. You could very well just not be his type. That’s ok. Give him a smile acknowledging that you’ve noticed him. Channel the inner model in you prefect smizing (smiling with your eyes).
7. Be graceful, women glide.
You see a nice looking guy, float over to his section. The key is to float and not cat walk over to him. You have to give him a chance to notice you. More importantly, you’re catching the eye of a potential plan B, C & D. You know you’ve succeed with this step when he says “I noticed you when you walked in.”
8. Be flirty, be touchy.
Something is wrong with women these days. They wait to be invited to touch a man before they get cozy. Go get some liquid courage and stop wasting good opportunities to investigate what is under that shirt. Grab hold of a bicep with a little firmness. Don’t forget to stay in your groove and don’t let him kill your vibe. If you don’t like what you see, simply say “oh yea that’s my song, have a good day sir.”
That’s it folks. You see it’s not about getting his number but discovering that sexy, more confident you. You want to first feel good and then channel that energy the whole night. The goal is not to necessarily meet someone but you want to put the best you forward and that requires confidence. Confidence is how you get a man and keep him.